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Hey there,
I'm about to share a
secret with you about men
that most women will go their entire love lives
never seeing or understanding.
Here's why it's critical
that you find out
about this secret RIGHT NOW...
This one simple but
powerful insight could mean
the difference between you becoming truly close,
connected and committed with a man, in the kind of
way where you TRULY know him.
Or...
Experiencing the
disconnection and withdrawal
that often comes from a man's fear of “losing his
freedom” or being overwhelmed by intimacy in a
relationship with a woman, who DOESN'T know about
this secret.
The truth is, it doesn't
have to be so
difficult when it comes to a lasting relationship
with a man.
Keep reading to learn a
powerful insight most
women will never come across to turn the common
“resistance” in relationships with men from an
obstacle to a point of growth and connection.
Oh, and here's something
else you're going to
get from this insight that will DRAMATICALLY
change things in your love life for the better...
What you're about to
learn will not only help
you understand what's REALLY going on in a man's
mind... since, as you know, men can often not
share much or make it feel very easy to share...
But... it can also have
the rare and desirable
quality of actually helping a man to understand
YOU more.
Wouldn't that be a breath
of fresh air?
If you haven't read
between the lines yet, I'm
talking about a RELATIONSHIP SKILL that's CRITICAL
for you to learn if you want a lasting
relationship with a man.
Stop repeating the same
old patterns, that you
know from experience, have only lead to
heartbreak, disappointment or wasted energy.
It's time for change.
It's time to do things
differently.
It's time to have what
you want in love.
It's time to find and use
WHAT ACTUALLY WORKS
in relationships with men.
THE POWER OF YOUR
BELIEFS
ABOUT MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS
There's something
FASCINATING that I've
realized is a common source of pain and
frustration for lots of women in relationships
with men... and I want to share it with you.
Something that can create
a subtle but powerful
and lasting DISTANCE between a woman and a man.
Something that even
happens for women who would
consider themselves “good communicators.”
Something that brings
about the very situations
that most women are looking to avoid in a
relationship - such as disconnection, withdrawal
and a lack of intimacy.
What I'm talking about
here are our BELIEFS.
But how are BELIEFS
important when it comes to
dating and relationships with men?
Well, beliefs have a VERY
POWERFUL EFFECT on
everything we think and do.
You're not always
conscious of it, but your
beliefs color your entire perception of what's
happening around you.
You just don't see it
happening because your
mind does it so quick and perfectly.
Everything you see and
experience is run
through your own set of beliefs, and these help
shape a set of meanings, feelings and emotions.
So, in a sense, what you
think and feel is
largely driven by your beliefs.
Here's where all this
gets FASCINATING...
What if you have an
overly “negative” belief?
And what if you have a
belief based on fear or
loss?
And what if you have a
belief that's just plain
WRONG?
The PAINFUL TRUTH is
that, if you're like lots
of women who've been hurt in relationships, then
you probably have your own set of beliefs about
men, relationships and about yourself in
relationships.
And, like it or not, some
of these beliefs are
most likely shaping negative, limiting or even
SELF-DESTRUCTIVE experiences in your life.
Of course, men have these
kind of beliefs too,
and these beliefs subtly drive parts of their
thinking and behavior.
Here's a great example...
Tell me... would a
healthy, loving, committed
relationship with a woman really take away a man's
“freedom”?
Of course not.
Believe it or not, men
are smart enough to know
this when they have a great woman in their life.
But then, why do so many
men still believe this
to be true anyway, and act it out in their
relationships through non-committal or withdrawing
behavior?
Here's the strange part
about WHY...
It's not a man's
“logical” or “rational” mind
that's completely in control here.
It's the man's
SUBCONSCIOUS BELIEF that a woman
and a relationship will take away his freedom.
Note that I said
“SUBCONSCIOUS” BELIEF here...
Which means that even if
you “called a man out”
about this belief in his mind, it doesn't mean
that he'd be able to see what you're talking
about, let alone understand it for himself.
Follow me here?
In fact, a man would
probably say you were
making up “psycho-babble” and not hear you at all.
But here's the point...
Men and women both have
important and powerful
beliefs about the other sex and relationships,
rooted deep in their minds.
So...
Do you know YOUR beliefs?
And do you know how to
find out what a man's
beliefs are?
Knowing this you won't
fall into common deadly
relationship traps other women come up against
again and again with men and can NEVER get the
clarity that they're after.
IDENTIFYING YOUR
“LIMITING BELIEFS”
AND THE COMMON SITUATIONS WITH
MEN THAT CREATE THEM
After years of research,
study and
observation, I've found several of the common
false or “limiting beliefs” that keep women from
loving and having lasting relationships with men.
Of course, I've also
found common “limiting
beliefs” that men have - ones that seem to, in
situation after situation, make it difficult for
them to be in committed relationships.
But let's start by
talking about the most
important person here...
YOU.
Let me ask you an
important question...
Have you ever wondered if
there's something
you're just plain missing about men in general?
That when it comes to how
men think, feel and
behave in relationships, they're really all
messed up and strange?
Here's something I've
learned from women about
what's really puzzling about a man...
How can a man be so open,
generous, loving and
caring early on and at various times in a
relationship, but then act like you aren't the
same two people who share so much when things go
wrong?
I've seen this myself,
and I've heard it from
TONS of women who've I've met, spoken to, worked
with and received emails from online.
In fact, to be honest,
I've even been that guy
myself in the past.
The reality is that a man
can go from caring,
protective, complimentary, and emotionally engaged
with a woman, and then suddenly become distant,
cold or uninterested.
All as though he was
never even emotionally
involved in the first place.
Know what I'm talking
about here?
Give me a silent nod if
you've experienced this
kind of thing with a man before.
Sucks, right?
When it happened, you
probably felt, on some
level, like you'd NEVER understand what in the
world is going on with men.
And...
You probably felt like
you'd NEVER MEET A MAN
who was different and who would UNDERSTAND YOU.
Let alone get how love
and relationships work
in YOUR WORLD.
Sound or feel familiar?
Ok, now guess what these
thoughts and feelings
are?
That's right.. these are
the BELIEFS that
you've picked up from your past experiences with
men.
And guess what else?
They're not very helpful
to you.
In fact, they're actually
COUNTERPRODUCTIVE
when you're wanting to have an open, connected,
loving relationship with a man.
They also create distance
between you and a
man - distance that most women never know they're
creating themselves.
But don't worry... you're
not strange, messed
up or weird.
We've all been there.
You most likely took on
these self-defeating
beliefs to try and deal with the pain you felt,
and to help make sense of it all.
There's a direct link
between pain and
awareness.
And when you experience
pain, it's a natural
reaction of the mind and body to lessen your
awareness, in an effort to help numb the pain.
But here's what you need
to know RIGHT NOW...
If you don't start to
look for and become aware
of your own Limiting Beliefs, then they'll just
keep holding you back from ever finding what you
want. The strange thing is, for some reason, lots
of people like to hold on to their false and
Limiting Beliefs - regardless of how damaging they
are.
I like to think of these
kind of beliefs as a
“SECRET EXCUSE”.
We each have one, or
more, Secret Excuses that
we make up to comfort and protect ourselves from
the things that hurt or disappoint us about our
lives or ourselves.
But here's the reality...
Your Secret Excuse is
getting in your way.
Your Secret Excuse is
keeping you at a distance
from men, or that one special man, in your life.
Your Secret Excuse is
actually taking the new
things that are coming into your life and painting
them over with a dark negative “tint”.
Let me give you a few of
my favorite “Secret
Excuses” that I hear from women all the time when
it comes to men...
“Men can't have
real relationships.”
“There are no
good guys out there.”
“All men
cheat.”
Or, how about some of the
hopeless ones...
“Even if I find
a great guy, he won't end up
truly loving me... and it won't last.”
“I never get
back what I put in when it comes
to relationships. I give up.”
Or, there are the martyr
beliefs...
“I'm just not
meant to have true love in my
life - and all these past heartbreaks and failed
situations are PROOF.”
“There's
something wrong with me as a woman,
and I won't be able to fix it, so I'll give up on
finding real love in my life.”
And then there's the
single most popular and
common limiting and self-defeating belief out
there...
It's so subtle and
pervasive that some women
pass it around to each other daily, without even
noticing how negatively it effects them -
“Men are
jerks.”
If you don't understand
how destructive this
can be, imagine this...
What do you think would
be going on for a man
if he had repeatedly said that he thought women
were all “hysterical?”
Or how about,
“Women are all bitchy?”
Not a very healthy
outlook on women and
relationships here, right?
Not the kind of guy you
want to make a “go of
it” with... right?
Lots of
“baggage” to overcome.
Or maybe worse...
Lots of deeply rooted
personal BELIEFS to break
down before a man would ever actually SEE YOU for
who YOU are and be “present” with you.
Translation - lots of
emotional distance and a
severe lack of understanding and intimacy.
PUTTING
YOUR NEW AWARENESS OF
“LIMITING BELIEFS” TO WORK IN YOUR LOVE LIFE
So, now that you've got
this new “education”
about BELIEFS, how they work, and their power,
what can you do to improve your situation RIGHT
NOW?
What can actually create
positive change and
growth in the real-world you live in?
In other words...
Ideas are good.
But RESULTS are better.
The very first step is to
take the time to pay
attention to your own “voice.”
You know... that one
that's in your head that
goes off and screams loudly inside when bad things
happen with a man.
And yeah, I bet this
voice isn't the thing you
want to try and get close to in your life right
now.
But the sooner you figure
out why it's there
and what's behind it, the sooner you can make a
positive change for the better.
Here's something simple
but profound.
(My favorite kind of
concept!)
The more aware you become
about something, the
more power you have to change it.
But you can't work with
something that you
haven't put your finger on and identified for
yourself.
So start by working to
pay more attention to
the things you DON'T LIKE, or that BOTHER YOU
about men or relationships.
Maybe it's that thing
that has somehow happened
to you again and again with men, even though you
promised yourself you'd never let that kind of
thing into your life again.
Yeah, I know... Yikes!
I'm asking you to look at
that “crap?“
You're probably thinking
that you finally got
away from it.
Well, I'm not asking you
to go there because
I'm sick and twisted. (not much anyway...lol)
I don't want things to be
tougher than they
have to be for you to find and create the love and
fulfillment you deserve.
No... it's because I want
you to be able to
move past the things that are holding you back by
pushing them out from the place where they subtly
undermine you.
I call this
“lighting the dark spots”.
These “dark
spots” are where we don't often
like to look and are the places that we hide
things from ourselves that we don't like when we
see them.
But these places, as
scary as they might seem,
are the source of our Limiting Beliefs.
So, when we can bring
these things into our
consciousness and awareness, we gain positive
power over them.
Of course, it also really
helps to have
experience and guidance when you start off in new
areas.
Finding the right
information can save you
literally years or decades of time and wasted
energy.
And that's where you're
really in luck...
I've literally spent
years helping women avoid
the pain and frustration of destructive and
limiting beliefs.
In fact, I've been able
to save thousands of
women from the wasted time and energy of trying
HARDER and HARDER in their relationships and
getting LESS and LESS back.
Partly by just clearing
up some of the critical
misunderstandings and frustrations that come from
limiting beliefs.
But also, by explaining
the importance of
knowing EXACTLY what to do in each of the critical
situations that come up with men while dating and
in relationships.
There are crucial
“resistance points” with men
and dating... and if a woman doesn't know about
these, it's HIGHLY likely that she'll trip over
them and end up with the common and dreaded
emotionally distant and non-committal man.
Don't end up there, with
no idea of how to
change things - without the drama and resistance -
on how "talks" can go for lots of women with men.
Here's the good news...
A few years ago, I
finally decided to take all
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GUIDE.
What came together was an
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OR inside her existing relationship.
My ebook,
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But don't take my word
for it...
I've included a few
recent emails I got in my
inbox from women who have read my book.
See what they have to say
for yourself.
You can find their emails
a little further
below.
Or, if you want, you can
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I'm SO ABSOLUTELY
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You actually do have to
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the material - and I can't do that for you.
But what better
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Do yourself a
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Don't waste any more time
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Best of luck in life and
love and I'll talk to
you again soon.
Your
Friend,
Christian
Carter
—REAL EMAILS
FROM ACTUAL READERS OF MY EBOOK—
Christian,
I first want to start off by thanking you. I read
your book front to cover in three days and it may
just be the most powerful and inspirational tool i
have ever encountered! You truly opened up my eyes
to a completely new way of dealing with men and
helped me see what it was that I was doing wrong.
I also read, "He's Just Not That Into You" before
i read "Catch Him and Keep Him." I must say,
although it was a good book, i strongly believe
that yours was much more informative on an
objective level. You explain it in a way that
doesn't criticize or put women down. Instead you
literally show us how we can make some changes in
the way we perceive situations with men. Your book
was a much more constructive learning tool for me.
Thank you!
D.B.
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Christian,
I hope this e-mail will get to you. I bought and
paid for your book this week. I also read the
entire book because it is a fast read.
I just wanted to tell you that you are utterly
amazing - you have your head on straight, and I
totally agree with your viewpoint on the
male/female dynamics. I am recently divorced after
being previously widowed, so I know what a good
marriage and relationship consists of based on the
first marriage. At this juncture, I needed some
reassurance, and your book really reconfirmed the
viewpoint that I already had-- that being an
independent, self-assured woman is a win for the
woman, and a win for a relationship.
I've recently gone on 3 dates with someone I like.
On the last date, I was kind of disappointed that
he didn't make sexual advances. Based on reading
your book, I am honored. Thanks for that
enlightenment.
Alice C.
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Hi Christian!
I have to tell you, this book, along with several
other key events, has changed my life!!! In the
past week, I've been contacting old boyfriends and
forgiving them, apologizing, sending love to them
and really meaning it! I am able to stop being a
victim of circumstance and start taking
responsibility for creating everything I want and
deserve. It's all about loving and forgiving
myself. I was seeking approval and a whole slew of
other disgusting behaviors. I just didn't get it.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!! I'm going to
tell all of my single friends about this web site
and book~!
Julie :)
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Subject: Success story
Hi Christian!
This email is about a success story, but not mine
- yours! :)
Your story (ebook) is a true success! I am glad I
had the guts to write my Visa-card no and order
your book, I hope U won't sell it to criminals in
the future.... I had some money left on the
account today so I might just trust U after all.
:)
I have just started to study at University (after
working 17 years): Social psychology and
communication, I have also gone to a course in
Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg) and
what can I say: YOUR BOOK HAS IT ALL! You have
great skills in several areas and combine them in
a very intelligent way. I read somewhere that you
said that you're not an author. You are! I can
tell. It was the perfect language for this
subject. You even put in data about scientific
research in a very interesting and humorous way.
Actually, you have inspired me to become a "non-
author" in topics about personal development and
understanding people...my vision is to become a
personal coach and I think this writing thing can
be something for me too. I have never had that
idea before but I will continue nurturing it!
Finally: THANK YOU for explaining why I have
failed in earlier relationships! And also why I
succeeded in some! It all seems clear now. I can't
wait to test my new skills and see where it takes
me :) I have come so far that I know that the only
person that can make me happy is me, myself and I,
that is the first step right? That means I will no
longer be needy and clingy, halleluja. I have a
good life without a man.
I hope you have come so far that you are able to
feel how grateful I truly am for the opportunity
to read your "instruction book", and that I really
think that you have made a great job. Put this
knowledge in your heart and keep it. I don't want
to waist your time in vain, see. :)
Best wishes,
Annki from Sweden
ps: Sorry for the "false" subject line....I
couldn't resist it :)
ps2: I don't know how many grey hairs the studies
have given you, but trust me, it was worth it :)
You will save loads of women from unnecessary
pain. Hopefully loads of men as well. That gives a
lot of plus points in heaven! :)
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